Frustrated Parent Pulls Out Wedding Funds And Urges Lovestruck Son To Reconsider Entire Marriage Because His Fiancée Insists On $10k Dress

“Imagine demanding such an outrageously priced dress when you only earn minimum wage!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 7, 2024

Today's story kicks off with a well-meaning parent who decided to help their son and his girlfriend, Sammie, fund their wedding. The young couple both worked minimum-wage jobs at restaurants, so they were in dire need of a financial boost to make their special day happen. 

Our narrator (Original Poster) had always maintained a decent relationship with Sammie, but she soon discovered a troubling trend. Sammie had a penchant for living beyond her means; you could usually spot her flaunting YSL bags and strutting around in Golden Goose sneakers.

Oh, but that wasn’t even the worst of it. During the wedding dress shopping trip, OP witnessed Sammie zeroing in on a $10,000 wedding dress. 

Eyes wide with disbelief, they gently suggested the dress was a bit excessive for a small wedding. Sammie’s retort? “Since you're paying for the wedding, I can afford the dress I want!”

The situation escalated into a heated exchange with Sammie’s mother, who declared her daughter was a ‘princess.’ OP countered with a hard dose of reality, pointing out that Sammie worked at Chili's and lacked a high school education.

The fallout was immediate and intense. OP withdrew their financial support for the wedding, opting to allocate those funds toward their son's education instead.

Her son, however, didn't see eye to eye with this decision. He felt betrayed, especially since Sammie had already put a down payment on the lavish dress using her mom’s credit card. And another thing —Sammie was apparently the love of his life.

All attempts to get her son to call the wedding off proved futile. OP even found herself uninvited from the wedding unless she agreed to fund it.

How do they inject common sense into their son’s head without coming off as the villain?

The story in detail

OP intended to pay for the wedding of her son and his girlfriend (Sammy) since they both made little from their jobs. Although OP’s relationship with Sammie has been cordial, certain habits of hers struck a chord.

During dress shopping with her mother and bridesmaids, Sammie chooses an expensive wedding dress with the intention that OP could afford it. This doesn't sit well with OP whose primary reason for assisting in paying for the wedding was to ensure her son was debt free.

Sammie’s mother stated her daughter was a princess and deserved such an elaborate dress but OP disagreed. With everyone upset about OP’s stand on the dress, she decided not to pay for the wedding anymore and suggested her son stop the wedding and focus on his education.

By OP’s decision, her son ignored her and disinvited her from the wedding if she refused to pay for the wedding as earlier agreed.

We gathered some interesting comments from Netizens:

“If she’s a real princess then she should have some substantial opinions on infrastructure and how to stimulate the economic growth.”

“Unfortunately, your son is young and blinded by love. The only thing you can do is continue to invest in him and his education.”

“Sammie is going to lead your son into financial ruin.”

“This marriage has disaster written all over it.”

“Your son, DIL, and her mother are all looking at this very differently than you. They are looking at the dream and fantasy of what she and her mother see as their wedding day.”

“Tell him that this is what you can afford to contribute but you don’t want to interfere with his and Sammie’s vision for the day, so they can spend it however they see fit.”

Redditors fully backed OP’s decision to withdraw their financial support. It was simple: funding a wedding for financially irresponsible teenagers could only end in one way—disaster.

The general agreement was that they were too young to grasp the gravity of their decisions. Investing in their son's education and future was definitely the right way forward.

Do you agree with this verdict? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse